I remember the day my son announced he could hear a lady peeing in a public restroom (while the lady was still in the stall peeing). Not only did he announce he could hear her peeing, but he also made unflattering comments about her physical attributes.
I wanted to climb into a hole.
Haven’t we all been there? Kids will be kids. They have their own minds, thoughts and mouths. And no amount of training is going to prevent them from being the individual creatures they are.
Since then, I’ve learned a few things about reducing the risk of embarrassing moments with my kids.
Motherhood is challenging. Embarrassing moments are part of the deal.
Here are a few techniques I’ve learned to ward off mommy shame:
- Give your kids a five-minute warning before it’s time to go instead of abruptly stopping them in the middle of an activity. No one likes to be interrupted. A five-minute warning gives them time to mentally prepare to leave.
- Set expectations before you go shopping or to a social gathering. Let him know what you will and will not buy before taking him to the store.
- Discuss what’s appropriate to say in front of guests and why.
- Develop a signal for the two of you when you sense he’s about to say something inappropriate. (Sometimes you just know.) When discussing the signal, assure him he’ll be able to express his opinion or ask questions at a later time privately.
- Remember, you’re not a terrible mother. God allows those mommy moments to direct our focus on our need for Him.
There’s no protection against embarrassing mommy moments. We’ll never be rid of them, but we can teach our kids expectations to reduce the risk of those shaming moments.
So the next time your kids says something and you feel like you got the wind knocked out of you, take a deep breath and remember: embarrassing moments come with the package.
What techniques do you use to reduce the risk of mommy shame?
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