In every relationship, there’s a defining moment. After 31 years, we’ve had several. This week marks our 31st wedding anniversary. I don’t have tips to guarantee a long marriage.
I can tell you, we’re committed to each through the good, the bad and the ugly. And in 31 years, there’s been a bit of each.
Today, to commemorate the big 3-1, I’m sharing 31 facts about us:
- He’s from the Northeast. I’m from the South.
- He’s an extrovert. I’m an introvert. He’s an early bird. I’m a night owl.
- We met when I was 14 years old. We’ve grown up together.
- We started dating in high school. Kendall agreed to ask me to the prom for his friend. When I declined his friend’s invitation, he asked me if I’d go with him instead. (The rest is history.)
- Kendall was my only boyfriend. (I was not his only girlfriend.) But, we have been each other’s only adult relationship.
- We broke up (a minimum of ) 31 times during high school and college.
- Most of my weekends in college were spent at home watching “Love Boat” and “Fantasy Island” because Kendall worked Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays until 2 a.m. delivering pizzas to put himself through school. If we went out, it was always during the week. Once I convinced my sister Cynthia to pretend to be his mother and call in sick for him on a Saturday. (He felt so bad about it, we never did it again.)
- I wanted to live together before we got married. Kendall wouldn’t live with me unless we were married.
- We were 22 years old when we married.
- When we moved into our first house, we didn’t hire a moving company. We put our mattress and box spring on top of our car. He stuck his hand out of his window. I stuck my hand out of my window, and we balanced the mattress on top of our car as we drove to our new home.
- This next tidbit is a matter of perspective. Kendall tried to drown me in the Gulf of Mexico. He goaded me into riding an inflated banana, which was pulled behind a speed boat (even though I couldn’t swim). Yes, I fell off. 11b. Kendall says he saved my life when I fell off an inflated banana being pulled behind a speed boat in the Gulf of Mexico. He dove into the water after I fell off the banana and fished me out (which he only had to do because he taunted me into getting on the banana). You decide whether he saved my life of tried to kill me.
- My car was unreliable and ratty when we got married. No air. No heat. I had to roll down the window to open the door from the outside and shift gears by sticking a pen into the hole where the shift knob had been. The day we got married, Kendall gave me his brand new 1986 silver Toyota Celicia with a spoiler on back, and he drove my ratty car.
- Kendall taught me how to drive a car with a standard transmission.
- We’ve lived in 10 different cities, 16 different homes.
- He carries me across the threshold of every new house we own.
- Kendall became a Christian at 29 years old. I’ve watched him grow into a godly man and a strong leader of our family.
- We had our first child at 29 years old. He convinced me to home school.
- Kendall gave me commemorative Liberty Coins for our first Christmas. I cried.
- All 5 of our children were born in 5 different cities.
- I’m a Law and Order junkie. Kendall indulges me by watching with me, even though at the beginning of every episode he says, “We’ve seen this one before.”
- We zip-lined across the Rain Forrest when we were 50.
- We overlooked the Mediterranean Sea on our 20th wedding anniversary.
- Kendall was an Army officer the first five years of our marriage.
- We got into a serious car accident on our 10th wedding anniversary.
- We still hold hands, and he fishes me from under the covers to kiss me good-bye every morning before he goes to work.
- When we had kids, we cut off our cable and got rid of our TV.
- When our kids became toddlers, we purchased a TV and hooked the cable back up.
- We listen to Country Music.
- We went camping on our first anniversary. That was the first and last time I’ve ever been camping.
- We used to go to drive-in movies as teenagers
- He lets me tuck my cold feet under him in the wintertime.
My husband is my champion. He’s not perfect. He’s makes mistakes. And, sometimes he makes me really mad.
He always encourages me to do my best, and I don’t doubt he loves me and wants what’s best for me. He’s committed to making our marriage the best it can be.
What do you do to maintain a healthy relationship? Or share something unusual about your relationship.
Get Your Real On,