Okay, was ANYONE surprised, shocked or taken aback by the article in last week’s Wall Street Journal about “marriage and cheap sex?” Did the article ruffle anyone’s feathers just a little bit?
The article was supposed to be about the dip in marriage in this country. BUT the unspoken message was the casual mindset of women have towards sex. And how men feel about them.
The author said marriage is declining because it’s so easy for men to find cheap sex. By cheap sex, he means sex with no RINGS ATTACHED. “Free” as in no commitment.
Simply put, he’s saying men think, “Why get married if I can get what I want without getting married?”
By having a casual attitude towards sex, “we’ve collectively given away our bargaining chip.” The current #MeToo culture points out that sometimes it’s taken away. That’s part of the reason I’m surprised more women aren’t outraged by the attitude expressed by “Kevin” in this article.
“Kevin” wants to get married someday, BUT he wants to have sex with as many women as possible before he does. And, he’s confident he can. “Kevin’s” strategy is to find out what a girl really wants. Then he says: DON’T give it to her. He says when he does that he can have total control over her.
As women, we ought to take a look hard at his attitude and ours. This has nothing to do with women’s lib and equal rights. By having a casual attitude toward sex, we might’ve put ourselves in a position that makes us look weak. And, we might be missing out without and don’t even know it.
Here’s the irony. Studies show married people actually have better sex.
Forget about the sex, married people live longer; have better mental health; more emotionally stable kids; and are more financially stable. Not to mention a live in handyman, bug killer, and a built-in foot warmer in the winter.
It’s almost like people (men and women) now view sex as a mercenary act–something to be done only for personal gain. It’s no longer sacred.
The sex may be cheap, but the cost in the long run may be high. When something’s too good to be true, it usually is.
What’s your opinion about casual sex and its affect on marriage?
Get Your Real On,