My son proposed to me the first time when he was about 5 years old. I told him I was spoken for. But, God had already chosen a special woman for him, and I’ve been praying for her.
I have no idea who she’ll be. But I know I’ll love her because she’ll love my son. And he will love her back.
He’s never been one for delayed gratification, so he wanted to know who she is, how well can she cook, and if she likes to play Legos.
I don’t know who she is, I confessed, but God does and He will present her when the time is right.
I am raising him to be a man, and it’s my job to teach him how to understand and care for a woman’s heart.
He’s going to be a husband and a father, and as his mother, it’s my job to teach him the necessary skills to do those jobs well.
I know my son. He’s a loving, sweet boy. But he’ll won’t think twice about diving for the last piece of pizza or eating the last cookie out of the package and leaving the package sitting on the pantry shelf.
Like all of us, he can be selfish and willful. It’s really hard to think of him with a wife. He is still such a boy. Sometimes he wants his own way and fights with his sisters. In the process he’s learning how to respect women and apologize when he is wrong.
I am raising him to be strong and humble. He’s a work in progress. That work will not be complete when he takes a wife.
He isn’t a perfect boy, and he won’t be a perfect man either. Inevitably, he’ll let her down. My prayer is she’ll love him in spite of his flaws. I’m teaching him to love her in spite of hers.
At 12, I’m the woman at the center of his universe. I’ve been caring for his heart. Our relationship will lay the groundwork for relationships he has with other women, especially his wife.
I’m his biggest cheerleader. But, I’m also teaching him how to take care of himself, not only his personal hygiene but also how to cook, wash clothes, and clean up his messes. She’ll appreciate that.
He comes to me when he’s hurt, when he’s happy, when he’s troubled, and when he’s sad.
One day I’ll hand his heart over to her. And she’ll trust him with hers. And, I pray she handles his heart tenderly.
He will look into her eyes when he’s hurt or afraid. He’ll reach for her hand when he’s happy. He’ll share his dreams and fears with her. He’ll seek her counsel and delight in seeing her in the morning.
She’ll be the first one he’ll call when he has good news or faces disappointment.
I pray for her because she’ll have a large role to fill in his life. I’ve taken the responsibility of raising him seriously.
If I’ve done my job well, he’ll feel responsible for her. He’ll work hard to take care of her and their children. He will respect her.
If I’ve done my job well, he’ll be secure so he can make tough choices. His choices may not always be popular. But I am raising him to stand on principle and not to pander to the popular vote.
If he’s anything like his father, he’ll be his own man. And some days she may wonder what she’s gotten herself into. And maybe even doubt her decision to have wed him. On those days, I hope she looks to me for counsel.
I know things about him she doesn’t yet know. I promise to share what I know of him so she’ll understand his quirks and be equipped to love him well.
So I pray my future daughter-in-law will have a desire to stand by my son through the sunshine and the storms of life. I pray she’ll support him in his decisions and love him through his mistakes.
I pray she’s being raised in a loving home with people who are cherishing her and are teaching her she’s valuable and to respect herself.
I pray she has a pure heart, loves God, and desires to align her life with His will for her. That she’ll lean on Him when the hard times come. And, love Him more than she loves my son.
I will always be his mother, but when he takes her as his bride, I’ll no longer mother him.
I pray I’ll be able to relinquish that place in his life so where my journey with him ends, hers will begin.
I will seek a relationship with his wife that encourages open communication and trust. I want to be a mother-in-law she looks to for guidance and friendship.
And I pray they’ll delight in one another, love each other well and hold onto each other tight as they journey through life together.
If I am successful, my son will be a man worthy of her respect. After God, she will be the center of his universe.
And if she’s a great cook and loves to play Legos, he can count that as a bonus.
Get Your Real On,